Thursday, June 4, 2009


Thursday, June 4, 2009

Her name is Jennica, my sister, 17 years younger than me. I saw her grow up from a chubby baby with her legs up in the air while sleeping to this young lady who is now taller than I am, wears lip gloss, and yet continues to take pleasure in watching Dora the Explorer. I used to change her diapers. Now she can wear my clothes.

One might think that I’d feel old seeing her so grown up. I don’t. In fact, I feel young when I’m with her. Through her eyes beaming with youthful exuberance, I rediscover the world. She makes me appreciate, in different ways, things that I otherwise would merely ignore or even disdain upon. She is not just a kid sister; she is my best friend.

Between the two of us, I’m supposed to be the grown-up; but I believe that I learn more from her than she does from me. With her candid, no-nonsense approach to life, she is the one person I can count on to tell me the truth. When asked about her opinion on things—from relationships to my outfit for the day to choice of movies and hairstyle—she tells me with painful clarity what exactly she thinks. Though astute and precocious for her age, she has not yet—and I hope she never does—learned the often used skills of obfuscation and equivocation. She was only 12 when I had my heart thoroughly chewed up and spit out, but I found humor and solace in how she unknowingly cheered me up.

She once complained why she was never included in our old family pictures, those pictures that show our parents and all of her four older siblings when we were still young. That’s because we were already grown-ups when you were born, we explained. That unmistakable I-missed-so-much look crossed her face. She did miss a lot. She was not born yet when our family was still a family, together and unbroken.


witsandnuts said...

She's pretty like you. =)

Amelia said...

you are so lucky to have a sister ;)

jacqueline said...

sya na ba yun?? dalaga na ang kapatid mo! :) nag-slim na sya ha... conscious na ba sa figure?

buti ka pa, may sister... ako, may mga times na i wish may sister ako... sarap siguro, 'no?


Kayni said...

your sister and i have the same complaint...not being present in old family photos. did you know that i was born 10 years after my brother? so both my siblings were already in college and i was still running around my elementary

mordsith said...

how lucky for both of you to have each other as best friends. i have many kid cousins (i'm an only child), and i ask them things when i want total honesty. :)

Anonymous said...

People experience the same stuff where ever they are, amazing stuff.

This post shows why there's more that binds us than divides us.

Insightful as ever Angeli.

Anonymous said...

NO to obsfuscation and equivocation. YES to osculation. :)

Angeli said...

thanks so much, Unstranger. :)

Don't Be a Slut said...

So beautiful that you two have that relationship.

(And you look like only five years separate you, not 17. Do people age backwards in the Phillipines?)

~ fren ~ said...

ay, same circumstance. the age gap that I have with my youngest sibling's 10 years. now that gap is not anymore evident.:)

and in addition, i was the one who used to give all of my younger siblings (3 of 'em) allowances. now, it's the other way around.:)

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