Friday, April 10, 2009

Fairy Tales

Friday, April 10, 2009

There must be something wrong with me. I watched Slumdog Millionaire with my sister yesterday, and I didn’t like the movie as much as she loved it. The cheerful way privation and destitution were depicted I found a bit distracting and the love angle I found unconvincing. Have I become too jaded that I don’t believe in the conquering power of love any longer? The idea of a person’s entire existence geared towards finding and holding on to that One Great Love has ceased to be believable for me. Though some are lucky enough to have found the love of their life at first shot, most of us have to try several times.

The person you thought was The One for you turns out to be The One for somebody else, too. The wedding you have dreamed of all your life becomes a mistake of such massive proportion and the origin of enduring lamentation. We’ve all suffered from the bone-crushing pain of heartache; we’ve all loved and lost. But eventually, we have all managed to move on and find love anew.

Though completely disillusioned with the institution of marriage, I still believe in love. I just don’t believe in fairy tales anymore – with the whole “and they lived happily ever after” that papers over what actually happens afterwards, when the hard part of love begins. When the romance ends, the whoopee cushions deflated and the all-consuming rapture dissipates, that’s when the fairy tale ends and reality begins.

19 comments:

Kayni said...

Don't worry. You're not alone. I didn't like that movie either, and I was so puzzled why the awards. I don't know, but I, too, don't believe in fairy tales.

unstranger said...

Hi Angeli. Excellent posting. Hope to watch that film eventually too. Anyway, your take on marriage and love is probably shared by most people world wide. You articulate it very well.
I am not disillusioned however by marriage, I believe it to be a sacred thing even though we as people can fail and so often do in meeting fully our commitments to it.
Recently divorced myself I feel somewhat ok in discussing marriage but I just haven't changed my beliefs because I failed once. I may marry again someday, one never knows.

This is a post I put up following my recent divorce;

http://unstranger.wordpress.com/2009/03/30/divorce/

You may have read it already.

Artemis said...

It makes me all the more curious to watch the movie.. i wonder what will i feel about it. many friends are praising it.

re marriage and finding the right one, as they say, you have to kiss many frogs to find the prince (ha ha, was it said like that?)..

Angeli said...

hahahhaahha.. artemis, you are so right. panay nga sila palaka. ahahaha

kayni, and i thought i was the only one who didn't like it. it's different from other hollywood movies. maybe that's why it won those awards.

hello unstranger. my disillusionment comes from seeing people (and too many marriages) being discarded as easily as disposable diapers.

renaye said...

ur thinking of the movie is fine. i have some friends who were wondering what's the fuss of this movie since they think this movie is overrated and common plot.

Amelia said...

hahaha....same thing with me.from the looks of it and the review I didn't like the movie but just to satisfy my curiosity why the award I watched it...I even more dissatisfied with it.just like some of our local movie or we even had better than that...husband even mentioned "sa susunod magigig mura na yung movie kasi outsourced na sa India" and we all laugh!!! LOL!:))

marriage? who says its a fairy tale??hahahaha....for me, it's a sacred vow that no one should ever go into if they have some reservations with it. it will just be a fairy tale if you were able to live happily ever after...after those arguments, misunderstandings, differences and what-not.

dinadelias said...

hi ange! newly married and with a baby, i am very, very happy- but you are right, the hard part comes after the papers are signed and you have to live, on a daily basis, with various quirks and idiosyncracies- as well as deal with situations that are uncomfortable and unfamiliar. it's a vicarious experience (my set-up is not one that hallmark has a card for)and i don't know where it will bring me... i do hope we get to the end as a family. too many times this does not happen and it is too early for me to say that it will work to me... oh well... working towards it- hard.

re: slumdog movie. i agree with renaye.

Angeli said...

Hi Renaye. thanks for visiting my blog and leaving a comment. i truly appreciate it. you said it right: the movie is overrated and common. :)

Hello Amelia. I wrote this post because i remembered your asking me about the movie. the mumbai slum life, doesn't it remind you of our very own tondo, payatas or quiapo?

Dina, mare, I hope it works out for you. the uncomfortable and unfamiliar will soon be comfortable and familiar, di ba? sanayan lang siguro.. are you still here in the philippines?

Anonymous said...

i love fairy tales. i must have read 'snow white and the seven dwarfs 100 times. it is my kind of book; it is short, it has pictures and i can be any of the dwarfs except sneezy (i have no hay fever allergy).

for the record a lot of people still believe in abraham's fables. a case in point is quiverfull movement. come on people it is 21st century. :)

Angeli said...

You are Happy to me. :)

jacqueline said...

can't comment on the movie, haven't watched it yet.

marriage... well, it's a commitment one has to make. it's not just about being happy, not even just about LOVE. it's about being committed... being committed to work things out and make things work. it's never easy, even the smallest of things may be a cause for an argument. but at the end of the day, after things have been settled, and you are still together, grateful for the day you become one, that's when a married couple can truly say theirs is a fairytale. :)

Agnes said...

I agree the plot was luke warm but there was an innocence about the whole movie that was magical to me.

Angeli, I absolutely love being married. But I think you should only get married if you want to.

unstranger said...

Marriage takes two; therein lies the devil!

Angeli said...

You are right Agnes. Not all marriages are bad. Some are to be envied, even. :)

dinadelias said...

thanks dear =) and yes, still in the philippines. i'll be in baguio til the third week of May, then we go on a family holiday to Siargao [very excited!=D]... do send me naman your number so i can text or call...

ninaparton said...

did you know that primitive men used to steal women from other tribes to become their brides? they tied them to keep the stolen women from running away. and as time passed on that rope became a string around the woman's finger and go figure its the gold band married folks wear around their ring finger.

jaded - well at least your not yet commitment-phobic. that's a good sign.

Angeli said...

definitely not commitment-phobic. i am now in a committed relationship, am i not? :)

witsandnuts said...

I watched this last night (finally, finishing at midnight) and it was good but not as expected. I think it appealed to many primarily because it has shown the dark side of Mumbai and some effects. As to the love angle, I'm not a pessimist but I don't think that kind of love still exist today. I don't even want to try to compute for the probability. =) But the movie at least tried to instill perseverance and mushy's love is all that matters.

Don't Be a Slut said...

I loved Slumdog, but totally understand your point of view. Life isn't a fairytale.

 
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