Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Minutiae of Faults, Quirks and Tiresome Qualities

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

I am guilty of always being overly critical of a friend’s boyfriend/life partner/husband during the initial meeting. I can’t help but give him a thorough examination – from the roots of his hair to the tips of his fingernails to the color of his socks. Does he have a weird accent? Does he suffer from a penury of conversation such that his vocabulary consists simply of yes, no and okay? Does he use too much hair product? Can he discern the subtleties and layers of an argument? Does he talk and act like an overgrown three-year old? These are the sorts of questions that run through my mind during the first encounter. It’s wrong, I know, but I don’t really intend to judge. I just want to understand what makes the person tick.

The idea that it is now my turn to introduce my boyfriend to my friends, who are as fastidious as I am, gives me a feeling of apprehension. Letting my boyfriend be put under a spotlight and undergo such harsh scrutiny—though I’m certain he’d win my friends over, anyway—is painful enough; for him to be reduced to a gossipy anecdote is what’s worse.

My friends can be really vicious in spotting my significant other’s minutiae of faults and quirks. What they may fail to see is that these tiresome qualities are what endear him more to me. It’s just the surface that is visible to them. Peeled off all the defensive integuments is the true core of the person I fell in love with - something that others won't be able to discern.

9 comments:

Marts said...

Hey gurl, I'll be back in town this weekend. Do I get to meet him? :D

Angeli said...

he went back na eh.. soon you guys will meet him. and okray will be allowed. :)

Kayni said...

where does your bf live? am i allowed to ask about him here...lol. don't worry. it is his qualities that you fell-in-love with that matters the most.

Angeli said...

hi kayni. he doesn't want to tell. he says, "tell them i am a Snuffleupagus."

:)

Anonymous said...

Her boyfriend lives in Lutherville Timonium, MD and 60 miles northeast of Washington D.C. :)

fren said...

that’s okay, Angeli. it’s innate/usual for the majority to scrutinize (and sad to say i belong to that majority). i, as well, couldn’t help being one (at times) so be not so anxious of your/our own ghost. 

but we must also remember, ‘first impressions don’t always count’. if others see that you’re very proud of your man no matter what, in the long run, they’ll eventually discern that he, indeed, is a pride! and if others (not necessarily your friends) keep on being fastidious, OK lang. in the end, it’s NOT between him and them any way.:)

Angeli said...

thanks Fren. you're right.

:)

Anonymous said...

Don't worry jill, we may be meticulous but we are FAIR too...so rest assured,we'll be nice...:)---JEN

Angeli said...

hahahaha.. i know, jen. you'll meet him soon. :)

 
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