Saturday, March 11, 2017

I'd conquered the solitary's way of life

Saturday, March 11, 2017

Not without some hardship, as I've said, I'd conquered the solitary's way of life; I knew its tests and satisfactions and over time had shaped the scope of my needs to its limitations, long ago abandoning excitement, intimacy, adventure, and antagonisms in favor of quiet, steady, predictable contact with nature and reading and my work. Why invite the unanticipated, why court any more shocks or surprises than those that aging would be sure to deliver without my prompting?

~Philip Roth, Exit Ghost, 2007

Thursday, March 9, 2017

I fielded questions about being single and childless

Thursday, March 9, 2017

It’s been a while since the last time I fielded questions about being single and childless despite my age. I am surprised at how I handled all of it. Instead of being defensive about it, I shrugged off their questions with some glib I-couldn’t-care-less nonchalance that any single girl who’d been asked the same question would be proud of. Rather than give them a rational explanation that they refuse to understand anyway, I merely smiled. I could have told them that I do not need a man to define, complete, watch over, or rescue me, but I said nothing.

A 39-year old woman who lives a full, happy life even without a husband or a child apparently astonishes some people. The fact that they are still astonished is even more astonishing.

Tuesday, September 27, 2016

To Impart Nuance

Tuesday, September 27, 2016



"Even should you choose to write in the simplest way, a la Hemingway, the task remains to impart the nuance, to elucidate the complication, to imply the contradiction. Not to erase the contradiction, not to deny the contradiction, but to see where, within the contradiction, lies the tormented human being." (Philip Roth, I Married a Communist, 1998)

Monday, September 26, 2016

Where to Next?

Monday, September 26, 2016

Since we came back from our trip to Vietnam, D and I have started dreaming of our next vacation. We thought of going back to the places we loved: fly to Nepal to hike the Annapurna Circuit; go back for another month to South America to explore Chile and Bolivia; return to Morocco and idle the days away in our favorite auberge in the mountains. Or why not go somewhere we’ve never been before? Maybe Japan, or the Basque Country in Spain, or even if it’s a long shot, the Greek Islands or the Amalfi Coast.
 
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